Japanese rope bondage
Kinbaku or Shibari means – Tying, to tie, to be tied etc.
The word “Shibari” is an old Japanese word for “to tie” while Kinbaku is a more contemporary word used today. In addition, the word Kinbaku also refers to erotic bondage.
Shibari / Kinbaku is based on “Hoshu Hojojutsu”, which was one of the 18 war skills a Samurai were expected to master. “Hoshu Hojojutsu” is the learning of using rope to arrest, defeat, transport, and torturing prisoners.
Throughout history and studies of ancient Japanese hojojutsu / hobakujutsu documents, it is only the word Shibari that is being used. The word Kinbaku is not used in Japan until the early 1950, when Kinbaku were presented to the Japanese SM environment. The word Kinbaku is now widely used around the world and is used primarily about an erotic play between two people – only by the use of ropes.
Nonverbal communication
In the western World we are taught that communication is all about talking and writing which is of course a necessity when we need to pass on knowledge and information.
When it comes to close as well as erotic relationships we have a tendency to drown each other in words. Our communication becomes confusing and we speak instead of perceiving what it is the other person needs, and what we need ourselves.
In Japan, most communication takes place through perception, intuition, empathy, and understanding. Many western people have experienced that this is all very powerful tool in the erotic play with rope, and this is also one of the most important things we need to learn.
Basically Shibari is about: Non-verbal communication between two people only by the use of rope. To sense each other, to play with, to give us permission to let go …. And to have the courage to trust one another …… completely without words
